In the first instance, we are invited to be part of the client’s ending process; we can work with them to set out the pace of the ending, tie up any loose ends, consolidate any learning or key action points. We can also reflect with them on how this process feels for them, and what it offers them. We can invite them to reflect on whether this is how other endings have happened in their lives or if it feels new. In short, the act of ending can be additive to the client’s learning experience.
If, however, they simply go off radar, this learning vein isn’t available to them. By making a break in this way, they are likely repeating patterns that they act out in their lives – ‘ostriching’ in the face of a perceived difficult conversation, avoiding perceived conflict, not wanting to cause offence or harm, or lacking the assertiveness to express their doubts or disappointments with the coaching process.
They may be opting out (consciously or unconsciously) as they’re not yet ready, willing or able to go where the coaching appears to be taking them. They may tell themselves they’re too busy, when in fact, they’re too frightened to go down a particular path.